Are you perfectly imperfect too?
I bet there is someone you know who looks like they have it all. Who looks like they do it all. They are always full of smiles, well dressed and happy. You may even envy them. You may look inwards to yourself and wish you were like them.
I bet, without any shadow of a doubt, that they have a long long list of things that they do not do too. I bet too, that some of the things that they do not do, you do!
So you are good! And if they saw your list of do’s and do not do’s they will envy you.
Just like me I bet you are perfectly imperfect.
I am not perfect. I am me. This is the list of things that I don’t do.
I do not:
- Iron or keep the washing basket empty. In fact I think there is washing still in the machine now…from yesterday.
- Fold the laundry regularly – it usually looks like Mount Everest.
- Come up with activities for my children to do as often as I should.
- Leave the house every day.
- Stop for lunch or eat proper healthy meals.
- Pamper myself.
- Rinse out the paint brush.
- Tend to my garden as much as I should.
- Go out for coffee with my friends every week (as much as people think thats that’s what a stay at home mum does).
- Read as much as I used to; unfortunately.
- Keep up with my filing.
- Remember birthdays and anniversaries all the time.
- Leave the house after 7pm at night as that would mean leaving my children alone.
- Keep my house clean. No matter how hard I try it just gets messy all over again.
- Cook from scratch. As much as I would love to be that parent, I just do not have the energy. Kudos to those who do!
- Get enough sleep. Who does?
- Write letters, thank you notes or a simple hello and post it via snail mail.
- Like getting up early.
- Take time to exercise.
- Eat enough vegetables.
- Get on my knees to scrub the floors.
- Wear makeup every day.
- Recycle (enough).
- Turn off the tv when no one is watching it.
- Turn off the tap when I brush my teeth.
- Make as much money as I used to when I was in the corporate world.
- Have short showers every day.
- Always shop with a list – therefore I spend too much on the things I don’t need (normally too much chocolate!).
- Take enough photos of my children.
- Visit friends as much as I would like.
- Spend enough time bonding with my family
- Stop to appreciate the simple things in life.
You could liken it to the great Wizard of Oz. If someone looks behind my curtain, they would see that I am no different than anyone else.
I might be a superwoman to my children, but at the end of the day I am just human.
I am beautifully broken. I am perfectly imperfect.
I do spend time with my two children, I do watch them grow and develop every day. I do laugh and cry with them. I do enjoy my life.
Yes, the garden may have more weeds than it should and there might be a bit too much dust on the coffee table and far too many dishes in the sink, but hey, I had fun making playdough monsters and getting all messy with them.
When it comes to the end of the day and I feel like I have done it all, I need to remember that I have not.
In all honesty no one really does. It is a great reminder that we can’t do everything, but we can do an awful lot when we set our mind to it.
What don’t you do?